The story below is culled from Nigeria Info Fm (chat Station with Onome)

  Here is an unedited mail I  received.Read her story below and share your views...

I am a married woman.Been married for 4yrs plus.I met my husband and immediately after leaving a very bad relationship that left me heartbroken . All  I wanted at that time was friendship cos i wasn't ready for another relationship. But he wanted more.After much pressure from him  and my elder sister,we started dating.

From  the very beginning ,there was no love  and no 'connection'.I liked him  

as a friend,but didn't exactly love him,but my sister said it was better that way. That all I need is a good man .And yes my husband is a good man,at least in character,and we get along well ,but that's all there is to our marriage .

I actually discussed my him reservations with him before we got married and even wanted to call off the wedding before we got married, but he sort of convinced me that it will get better. I had a  lot of premonitions but my mistake was confiding in my sister who waved my reservations aside and advised me to go ahead with it.After all, she has been married for 12yrs and should know better.

And so we got married,its been 4yrs and nothing has changed. We are just like a brother and sister living together. No emotions whatsoever. He hardly talks to me,and when i try to chat him up he calls it nagging. We hardly touch each other, we make love once in awhile and usually in a mechanical way. and even the once in awhile has stopped completely for more than 6 months now.

I late realized that he was a complete recluse,has low sperm count,weak erection, and other issues and he just wanted stability. To be fair i did my best to spice things up and make it work but he always rebuffed or sometimes ignored my efforts and gets defensive when i try come to come with possible solutions.i prayed ,I fasted and did all i know to do but he remained aloof and so i let him be. and then when i decided to leave he suddenly became ready to work things out and claims to love me and has been distracted by other things.

The problem is he has totally killed whatever litle emotion that once existed btw us. when he attempted to touch me again after such a long time i felt completely irritated.His touch has become alien to my body and i cringe at his touch 

There is no child  binding us together and that makes it even worse cos in the marriage nothing gives me  joy.My entire being is screaming for me to  leave.I have never cheated on him,even if i have tempted to several times.And i don't want to,but i don't know how long i can go like this.I had rather leave than cheat.But since he is now ready to make some effort before i make i my final decision, is  anything i can do to make things work ? is there possibly anything i can try? has anyone been in this situation before and was able to work things out? Can I possibly develop any interest in him again?

PLEASE HELP