Why Did I get Married?

After the Wedding party then comes the Marriage. This is a topic that is so  vast due to the number  people in the world that got married for various reasons

Men and women have different reasons for getting married to their spouses;with emphasis on the women. Some women got married because he is TDH (tall dark & handsome),or for protection, fame, money, convenience, sex, to flee an abusive/dysfunctional home, for love,or maybe there was no other man knocking on her door at time for marriage and she decided to "manage" him.

 For whatever reasons they decided to settle for their spouse,it is mutual love, respect , patience, friendship and  companionship which goes a long way to keep the marriage alive.

Our Lord Jesus said the greatest commandment is "To  love your neighbour as yourself'".If a man and  woman treat each other the way they as individuals want to be treated there will be no room for divorce.

There are cases of women in marriages that are not  favourable in one way or the another (that's a  topic for another day).The woman cooks,cleans cares for her immediate family and the extended family but no one takes cognizance of her effort and the thanks she gets is probably being told that she is JOBLESS or have been home doing nothing (trade places biko) or worse, being told that she does not dress like the cute "highflying butter creamish, butter does not melt in my mouth women". Not bearing in mind that she has dedicated her self  to caring for the man and making his house a home.

When she is sick ,she cares for herself , no one pampers her and in her lonely moments she might brood and ask  herself "why did i get married?" Yet she finds the strength to keep going while in  pains or tears and giving herself reasons why she should remain in an unhappy marriage

There have been women who are uneducated or educated and have not worked a day since their wedding day, sacrificing so much like selling their wrapper, jewelries and more to educate and care for the kids because they had been abandoned by her husband or partner. Also there are kid(s) disowned by the supposed father and the woman finds herself taking care of the kid(s). After enduring so much the man rears his head and comes back to the children's lives when they are all grown and doing  well. 

There are also cases of women kicked out of their matrimonial home because they could not  bear male children probably they have seven (7)  female children the father abandones them because of a woman he had an affair with has given him a SON and the abandoned woman could lament  "Why did i get married to this man?" but still draws strength from her children.

Domestic violence of women is another menace .A woman who has been emotionally, physically, psychologically and spiritually broken and battered that she thinks that it happens to all women.

However its not all bad, there are a lot of wonderful God fearing men out there that are the exact opposite of the former specie of men ,who love their wives and vice versa.

This couple though they will have their challenges, are spiritually, socially, morally and psychologically equipped to handle these challenges as they comprehend that marriage can be a win win situation ,by loving ,respecting, enduring each other 's bad habits in an endearing manner and not in being irritated by their spouse's short comings

The reasons why we get married varies but it has to be for the right reasons,as the institution of marriage can be wonderful not fairytale-like, but its worth it with the right man or woman.