What To Do Before Marriage

Tempers flare up at the slightest opportunities for couples whose tolerance for one another has fallen short,not willing to settle and address the bone of contention between them, the idea of  divorce will  seem more appealing t them.

Thereby making others who are yet to tie the knot apprehensive about walking down the aisle.However by comprehending what it entails to be married and expressing one's expectations to the partner , both of them will be aware and make their decision to get married on not.

The following below entails what they could expect in a marriage

1. There will be disagreements: Its paramount to know that couples will always have disagreements. They have disagreements to agree with each other later and  to understand themselves better.
2. Address your challenges : Its vital that the couple talk about what they expect from their marriage,they should make a list of what could make the marriage fail and a list of what they want in the marriage.They should clearly define how they intend to live as man and wife,including discussing the number of kids they want etc .Some people are scared to take the bold step due to an unpleasant experience of a relative in marriage, hence they have pre- marriage jitters,as they are asking themselves if they are making the right decision.
3. Is this my significant other? : From courtship or interaction with your partner one will be able to tell if this is the person he/she would want to spend the rest of his/her life with. If the ideas and expectations do not blend or flow then it is better to call it quits before march to the altar.
4. Are we friends?: Aside from being in love with each other,the couple should have an easy relationship where they are able to communicate freely by sharing their joys and pains with understanding.-friendship.For love makes you like the good sides or your spouse but friendship makes you tolerate the good and shortcomings of your spouse.
5. No Perfect Man/Woman in Marriage: Anyone who comes out and says my spouse is flawless is lying as there is no such thing as that.Its the couples imperfection that compliments one other that makes them perfect for one another in marriage.Be ready to forgive each other 70* 7 times. Do not try to change your spouse after marriage
6. Deceit : Its one major reason for divorce.Your spouse is you,lying to your spouse about matters that affects both of you is always detrimental to the marriage.Trust once lost in a marriage is difficult to restore and if it is, it can not be the way it was before.common issues that drives a wedge between couples are money,religion,life style and children.Endeavour to be on same page on these issues and you will go a long way
7. Joy: When your spouse is away do you look forward to seeing him/her.If yes then tying the knot is sealing what was meant to be ,that is you not being apart from one another.
8. Sexual satisfaction: Have a healthy a conversation on sexual satisfaction.Couples should not be timid about expressing themselves sexually to their spouse.Do not let the society dictate what gives you and your spouse joy.

A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage,lets try and be friends to our spouse,so that we can stand together against all odds.