Why Do Husbands Batter Their Wives

The issue of domestic violence is a societal menace in alot of marriages today.It is imperative to lay emphasis on the fact that some women would rather have their husbands physically batter them while others will not.Battering is relative,it can be verbal and non verbal (physical).

Alot of women literate or not ,suffer this menace and bear the pain in silence. Keeping up appearances in public has become their specialty,as it is their darkest secret which they would rather keep to themselves.What a façade, that marriage is not a 'happy ever after' tale for these women.

Domestic violence which is also psychological,makes the heart of these women skip at the sight of their husbands.They tend to be more frightened than being respectful to their husbands.

There are several questions that comes to mind in respect of women, that are in abused relationships or marriages.Why do these women stay with the men that batter them? Why do men batter their wives?Is it the best way to resolve clashes whenever they arise between the spouses?Is it due to growing up in a dysfunctional home or it is hereditary? Is it pure unadulterated wickedness of  man to his wife? These are questions that are rhetorical because there is no concrete answer to these questions.

Domestic violence in homes cuts across people from all works of life,social and political pedestal. There have been  cases of religious men battering their wives .There was a case of a man who was a pastor ,who told his fellow pastors that he has never quarrelled with his wife of over 20 years since they have been married.However his wife, picked that same moment to report her husband to his pastor friends that she is thinking about leaving him if he does not change his attitude towards her because he has been abusive to her in the marriage as she can not take it anymore.

A woman can be battered by her man for any reason that he feels justifies his attack on her. It could be number of pieces meat in his plate of food ,water was not properly placed in his hands,for refusing to have sex with him which could lead to matrimonial rape,even when the man is caught cheating on her ,she gets the beating of her life for questioning him...how awful.

Women are fragile ,and when the man married her ,as he said his vows ,he did not say " to have and to slap!' he said ,"to have and to hold".If he had said the former the marriage would not have been conducted.

Women who are in such abusive marriages it is better to leave the man for he will never change!